I've seen a trend in the parenting skills of some people.....I think it's detrimental to marriages. I had no idea that it would come to this one day --- but I support this guy!
We were lucky that Tim was always a good sleeper and never really gave us a hard time at bed time....but I think that there are other ways to deal with frustrating bed times than letting the kids sleep with parents. I have seen a lot of Moms give up their comfort, sleep and essentially the intimacy with their husbands because they let the kids sleep with them. I'm not saying that kids shouldn't ever sleep with parents - Tim comes in when he has a bad dream or is sick -- I just don't think it's right every night. I think it's very hard for parents to be good parents without unity with eachother. I'll just say it outright; (hilsy, cover your ears) sex is important in marriages!
First of all --- I have to agree with some of the comments (on his site) that a strike might not be the best way to solve this, and yes - he could be helping the mom instead. And as my mom says it is 'just a little weird'. But I think it's an issue in a lot of marriages - and I think a lot of men are afraid to voice it because they are made to feel like bad parents if they still want alone time with their wife!!
There is nothing wrong with snuggling and rocking babies to sleep --- but the problem is that too many parents are too exhausted to do the 'transitioning' later on. I know a mom who still rocks her kids to sleep for hours at night. Then they end up sleeping with her while dad heads to the kids bed so that he can sleep -- the kids are 5 and 3!!
I think our job as parents is to raise our kids to be able to deal with the real world - which essentially means to be independant, self-sufficient people. Security is ssssooooo important -- but there is a fine line between raising kids to be secure verses raising them to be dependant. And there are so many other ways to build security other than letting them sleep with mom and dad!
This is something that I feel really strongly about because I see moms everyday that think they have to give up themselves and their relationships because they are now moms. I think it's important to remember that you don't give up the 'husband/wife' (or friend, or sister, etc) roles just because you added 'mom and dad'.
Also -- I don't think this guy is perfect in the relationship. We don't know the whole story. Maybe she is lacking something from him....so she's clinging that much more to her kids. What I do agree with is that he needs intimacy with his wife -- sex (which yes, as michelle pointed out doesn't have to be limited to the bedroom) is only a part of this intimacy.